9th Ave: Melissa Febos in conversation with Mallory Ortberg

Thursday, March 16, 2017 - 7:30pm

This event will be held at our 9th Ave. store.



Melissa Febos talks about Abandon Me, her new memoir, with Mallory Ortberg.


Praise for Abandon Me:


“A powerful, poignant meditation on not only the pain of loss but also the maddening, intoxicating, confusing and exhilarating effects of true human closeness.” –  Meghan Daum, author of THE UNSPEAKABLE


“Abandon Me is a voluptuous book about the relationship between sex and surrender, desire and addiction, vulnerability and power. Febos unfolds her dark romance with erotic charge and sensuous poetry.” –  Sarah Hepola, author of BLACKOUT


“It's rare to read a book as generous as it is genius. Febos intimately explores addiction, pain, pleasure, the uncontrollable character and the strangely joyful and terrifying nuances of abandonment. I don't know that I've ever felt more thankful to read a book. Abandon Me found me when I most needed it.” –  Kiese Laymon, author of HOW TO SLOWLY KILL YOURSELF AND OTHERS IN AMERICA


“An intricately constructed and emotionally devastating book about the appearance and disappearance of love. Febos is a strikingly talented writer who pushes at the boundaries of her form and shows us just how amazing and expansive it can be.” –  Jenny Offill, author of DEPT. OF SPECULATION


About Abandon Me:


In her critically acclaimed memoir, Whip Smart, Melissa Febos laid bare the intimate world of the professional dominatrix, turning an honest examination of her life into a lyrical study of power, desire, and fulfillment.

In her dazzling Abandon Me, Febos captures the intense bonds of love and the need for connection -- with family, lovers, and oneself. First, her birth father, who left her with only an inheritance of addiction and Native American blood, its meaning a mystery. As Febos tentatively reconnects, she sees how both these lineages manifest in her own life, marked by compulsion and an instinct for self-erasure. Meanwhile, she remains closely tied to the sea captain who raised her, his parenting ardent but intermittent as his work took him away for months at a time. Woven throughout is the hypnotic story of an all-consuming, long-distance love affair with a woman, marked equally by worship and withdrawal. In visceral, erotic prose, Febos captures their mutual abandonment to passion and obsession -- and the terror and exhilaration of losing herself in another.

At once a fearlessly vulnerable memoir and an incisive investigation of art, love, and identity, Abandon Me draws on childhood stories, religion, psychology, mythology, popular culture, and the intimacies of one writer's life to reveal intellectual and emotional truths that feel startlingly universal.


Abandon Me: Memoirs Cover Image
ISBN: 9781632866578
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Published: Bloomsbury USA - February 28th, 2017

Named One of the Best Books of 2017 by:
Esquire, Refinery29, LitHub, BookRiot, Medium, Electric Literature, The Brooklyn Rail, Vol. 1 Brooklyn, Largehearted Boy, The Coil and The Cut.

Whip Smart: The True Story of a Secret Life Cover Image
ISBN: 9780312583781
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Published: St. Martin's Griffin - July 19th, 2011

A dark, wild, powerful memoir about a young woman's transformation from college student to professional dominatrix

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Texts from Jane Eyre: And Other Conversations with Your Favorite Literary Characters Cover Image
ISBN: 9781627791830
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Published: Henry Holt and Co. - November 4th, 2014

Hilariously imagined text conversations—the passive aggressive, the clever, and the strange—from classic and modern literary figures, from Scarlett O'Hara to Jessica Wakefield

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