The Groom Will Keep His Name: And Other Vows I've Made About Race, Resistance, and Romance (Paperback)
When Matt Ortile moved from Manila to Las Vegas, the locals couldn't pronounce his name. Harassed as a kid for his brown skin, accent, and femininity, he believed he could belong in America by marrying a white man and shedding his Filipino identity. This was the first myth he told himself. The Groom Will Keep His Name explores the various tales Ortile spun about what it means to be a Vassar Girl, an American Boy, and a Filipino immigrant in New York looking to build a home.
About the Author
Matt Ortile is the managing editor of Catapult. His writing has been published by BuzzFeed, Into, Self, and Out, among others. He lives in Brooklyn.
"An intellectually ambitious, politically engaged, ideologically sensitive memoir."
"[Ortile] traverses a multitude of humorous and painful experiences with incisiveness and empathy."
"A whip-smart essay collection explores the intersection of race, sexuality and identity through the lens of one queer immigrant's personal history."
—Shelf Awareness, starred
"Weaving stories together about his life and the history of the marginalized communities he belongs to, Ortile seamlessly brings readers into the intersections of his experiences."—Alamin Yohannes, EW.com
Ortile's writing is like sex--sensual and vulnerable, sometimes irreverent, and often soaked in layers of meaning, with the ability to make you laugh, make you cry, and lay you bare. The Groom Will Keep His Name is a sumptuous must-read for the queer millennial.—Casey McQuiston, author of Red, White & Royal Blue
Matt Ortile writes with precision and power, and his work overflows with probing insight both inward and outward facing. Ortile's essays deftly navigate the complicated intersection of race, sex, history, family, and self. Propelled by bracing candor and impeccable skill, The Groom Will Keep His Name rushes straight to the reader's eyeballs, demanding to be read.—
Matt Ortile writes this book as a kind of
open invitation to readers, exploring themes of family (chosen and otherwise),
relationships, race and identity with refreshing wit and vulnerability. Some of
his essays might remind you of favorite conversations you've had with your
sharpest, smartest friends-if you're very lucky, that is, and happen to have
friends as thoughtful and brilliant as he is. Wry, funny, and poignant by
turns, The Groom Will Keep His Name is an honest and
moving account of a young immigrant's evolving understanding of himself, as
well as the two countries he's called home.—Nicole Chung, author of All You Can Ever Know